You know that you can no longer abide by vanilla romance when the slow quiet huffs your partner makes during sex do nothing to satisfy your cravings.

They find your attempts for play in public disturbing and would sooner lick acid than touch you.

When their idea of kinky is oral, mainly receiving.

You know this can’t be all there is when you lay awake at night feeling more alone with this person in your bed than you ever did when you were actually alone.

When they fall asleep after a ‘quickie’ and never let you finish.

When you don’t feel you can be open about your inner self, your depraved desires, your deepest cravings…

Here’s to figuring out what it is we want, and finding the courage to have it.